Four Crucial Lessons I Learned While Quarantined With Covid-19

Despite my best efforts at self-protection, I was unable to dodge the Covid-19 bullet. Here are four lessons I’ve learned while being quarantined. Even if you’re not wrestling with this illness yourself, each lesson may be useful to you.

It feels great to turn down work.

Like you, I work too much. (I feel safe in making this assumption about you.) It’s great to have a job you love and to look forward to getting to work each morning. But to quote the theme song from Alfie, what’s it all about? And as both the Bible and the Byrds suggest, there is a time to work and a time to rest.

The legally and ethically required quarantine I’m on now has forced me to do something I’ve needed to do for a long time. Stop working. Not slow down. Stop.

Imagine that. A day without a Zoom meeting with a client. Hours going by without checking email. Not posting on LinkedIn. Just—nothing.

I’ll admit to feeling a little guilty for asking clients and colleagues to postpone deadlines until I’m over this illness, but once I explained why I was asking this, each person was kind and understanding.

Of course, I’m working now as I write this column for Forbes, but I’m doing so out of inclination, not obligation. The down time has helped to create mental space for more article ideas.

When I was a boy, a friend’s mother took my friend and me out to Dairy Queen and allowed us to have banana splits for dinner. A few years ago I reminded her of this taboo experience. “And the world didn’t stop turning, did it?” she replied.

What can you say “no” to right now? How might doing so help you in the long run?

It’s good to accept acts of grace.

When you’re sick, your friends and family want to help you. It may feel noble to turn down their offers, but I learned that it can be unintentionally hurtful.

When a friend asked if she could get me items at the grocery store, I politely turned her down. I had already ordered supplies and felt I had enough on hand. Mainly, though, I didn’t want her to go to any trouble on my account.

“For one thing, I have nothing to do at the moment,” she texted. Then she reminded me that I had helped her when her husband was ill years ago. She added that when she was going through that ordeal, someone told her, “When folks offer to do stuff, say ‘yes.’”

Just as there is power in saying “no” to work, there is a lot to be said for saying “yes” to gracious friends and family members.

It’s never too late to learn an instrument.

“I’m too old to learn how to play a musical instrument” a friend recently told me. Nonsense! I may not have the strength to put in a full day’s work at my desk, but I do have enough to begin harmonica lessons. I ordered a Hohner Blues Harp®, a copy of Winslow Yerxa’s excellent Harmonica for Dummies and Ben Hewett’s Udemy online course for beginners, and I’ve been enjoying every puckering minute.

I began studying drums as a boy, and I forgot how frustrating it is to be unable to perform a simple exercise on a new instrument and then how thrilling it is to finally be able to do it. When was the last time you challenged yourself to learn a new skill? This is the perfect time to start.

There’s no point in getting angry at nonconformists.

A few people have asked me, “How do you think you got infected?” I have no idea. The few times I’ve gone outside since the lockdown began in New York, I’ve worn a protective face covering and gloves. My wife and I have been vigilant in keeping the apartment clean, and we’ve observed the social distancing guidelines consistently.

It has been deeply upsetting to see people flagrantly disregarding the requirement to be masked in public. The purpose of the rule, after all, is to minimize the chances of passing along the virus to others. The unmasked were essentially telling the world, “I don’t care about you.” Isn’t anger a reasonable response to that?

What I discovered, however, was that muttering about my annoyance or even confronting a few unmasked people didn’t change the situation. They weren’t troubled in the least by my protests, and all it did was upset me. To what end?

Many years ago I met a former workaholic who changed his ways by studying martial arts with a Zen master. One thing that helped him find peace was reminding himself, over and over, “What is, is.” Isn’t that stating the obvious? Of course that statement is true. It’s a tautology. It’s like saying, “A bachelor is an unmarried man.”

But there’s a wealth of power in keeping “What is, is” in mind from time to time. In many troubling situations, all we can do is change our behavior and our reactions to the world.

Perhaps a respectful, friendly response to the unmasked would work, such as “Hey, I realize these things are uncomfortable. But you seem like a decent person. Why not give it a try?” Still, there’s a lot to be said for observing without judging. That’s a lesson I knew about before, but so much quiet time for reflection has driven that lesson home.

What’s something you’ve been angry about that hasn’t served you well? Would this be a good time to let go of it?

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