The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. (Photo: Shutterstock)
According to Charles Spielberger, “anger is an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage.”
Do you get angry at small things? According to Charles Spielberger, PhD, a psychologist known for his study on anger, it is an emotional state that ranges from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Anger can be caused by both external and internal events. While anger is a normal and healthy emotion, it can become problematic if not managed properly, leading to physical, emotional, and social consequences.
Unexpressed anger can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive behaviour or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile. The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes.
Here are effective strategies to help control anger before it controls you:
Recognise the early signs
Often, people experience physical sensations like a racing heart, tense muscles, or rapid breathing when anger is rising. Becoming aware of these signals allows you to pause and take steps to calm yourself before reacting impulsively.
Cognitive restructuring
Criticising or placing blame might only increase tension. Instead, use the “I” statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific and talk about the problems.
Effective communication
Expressing your feelings assertively, rather than aggressively, can help you convey your needs without escalating the situation.
Exercising
Physical activities might help to cool down the anger. Doing yoga or meditation might help with it.
Take a timeout
Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. Reading a book, listening to soothing music or even going out for a walk might help you to divert your attention from the rage that is building. After relaxing, you will be able to communicate better.
Engage in Problem-Solving
Sometimes anger arises from unresolved problems or frustrations. Engaging in problem-solving can shift your focus from the anger itself to finding constructive solutions. Break down the issue into smaller, manageable steps and brainstorm potential solutions.
Use Humour to Diffuse Anger
Humour can be a powerful tool for managing anger. Finding the lighter side of a situation or using humour to defuse tension can help shift your emotional state.
Establish Healthy Boundaries
Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is essential for managing anger. Clear boundaries help prevent feelings of being overwhelmed or taken advantage of, which can trigger anger.
Implement Relaxation Rituals
Creating and sticking to relaxation rituals can provide a routine way to manage stress and anger. This might include activities like meditation, deep breathing
exercises, or taking regular breaks throughout the day to relax and recharge.
Seek Professional Help
If you find that anger is a recurring problem that significantly impacts your life, relationships, or well-being, seeking professional help can be highly beneficial.
Therapists and counsellors can provide valuable tools and techniques tailored to your specific needs.
